Side
by Side, Edward T. Welch
I meet with two other ministry wives and we
recently read Side by Side
together. It was time very well spent.
It is a brief, eminently helpful and
practical book that helps you think about how to love other people well. Rooted in the principle that people are needy
and are also needed, Welch has created a great manual for those who want
to be proactive in both sharing burdens by acknowledging we need others and
also for bearing the burdens of others in our community.
One of his overarching ideas is that normal
people help normal people. We don’t
always realise it, but it is friends, family, colleagues, church family who
help us through hard times much more than professionals (eg counsellors, etc)
We were meant to walk side by side, an interdependent body of weak people. God is pleased to grow and change us through the help of people who have been re-created in Christ and empowered by the Spirit. That’s how life in church works(p12)
Part
2: We are Needed gives an almost chapter by chapter
guide on how to be helpful to others.
The first of these are applicable to all situations, but seemed most
appropriate to gatherings of God’s people.
So there are reminders to actually move towards people and greet them, to have
thoughtful conversations, to see the good in each other, to find out people’s
stories, to have compassion during hard times, and to pray. All of these are helpful practical
ideas. Nothing new really, but a helpful
reminder to many of us of the power of our words and giving people our
attention. In many ways, these chapters
reminded me of “The ministry of the pew” which went round our church in the
1990s. (which I found a reference to in a 1994 Briefing Article).
Then it got a little deeper, encouraging
conversations about sin. Our reading
group felt this was accurate and needed, but it signified that each chapter
really represented a continuing deeper relationship with someone. These were no longer topics generally covered
over morning tea after church. These
were conversations requiring careful thought and wisdom.
He finishes with the reminder to keep the
gospel story in view – knowing it is our past, our present and our future. We have been predestined and saved, our sins
are forgiven by amazing grace and we live with hope.
This is a book well worth reading, and its
value will be greatly increased if you read it and discuss it with others. Highly recommended.
I'll be adding that to my 'to read' list. :)
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