“What patterns, themes, and threads of blind spots do I detect in rookie and veteran biblical counselors—myself included—from which we could learn and grow?”It’s worth going through the mistakes he lists, including some comments. For some, this will prompt you to read the book, others might just appreciate the brief summary below.
Mistake #1: we elevate data collection above soul correction. This was all about empathy, and being relationally present with a counsellee.
Mistake #2: we share God’s eternal story before listening to people’s earthly story. Rather, we need to be ‘lingering listeners’, avoiding the ‘shallow concordance approach’:
“With one foot, we enter deeply and personally into our counselee’s story, situation, and soul. With the other foot, we pivot into and journey together to Christ’s story of redemptive hope. Our calling is to step into and move between two worlds, between two stories as we help our counselees see how Christ’s redemptive story intersects and invades our counselee’s troubling story.”Mistake #3 - we talk at counselees rather than exploring scriptures with counselees. Instead, we want to be collaborative.
Mistake #4 - we target sin but diminish suffering. “Instead, let’s be comprehensive, compassionate biblical counselors who address the gravity of grinding affliction.”
Mistake #5 - we fail to follow the Trinity’s model of comforting care. There were helpful insights here into the care, compassion and comfort of the Father, Son and Spirit.
Mistake #6: we view people one dimensionally instead of comprehensively. We need to consider the whole person - physical, relational, spiritual, etc.
Mistake #7- we devalue emotions instead of seeing emotions as God’s idea. Rather, emotions are of great value:
“In summary, the key to our emotional reaction is our belief or perception about the meaning behind the event. Events impact whether our emotions are pleasant or painful. Our longings, beliefs, and goals impact whether our emotional reaction is holy or sinful.”Mistake #8 - we minimise the complexity of the body-soul interconnection. We are complex body-souls, yet broken by sin and also redeemed, awaiting glorification.
Mistake #9 - we maximise sin while minimising grace. Rather, we want to be grace maximisers, grace magnifiers and grace dispensers.
Mistake #10 - we confuse the sufficiency of scripture with the competency of the Counselor. I must say, this is not something I feel, but do understand the issue. He says, rather that we need ongoing equipping, we are not self-sufficiently competent to counsel, we are incompetent to counsel in our own strength, and we are not independently competent to counsel without support and community.
He goes on to expand this idea, stating we need to be aware of our competency to counsel, and a way to do this is by asking:
- What’s my level of overall growth and maturity in character, content, competency, and community (4C)?
- What my level of 4C equipping related to the particular issues I’m being asked to address?
- Consistently involve a comprehensive body of Christ team approach
- Prayerfully ponder whether the wider resources of the body of Christ may be needed
- Prayerfully ponder whether resources outside he church may be needed
- Have a candid conversation to mutually determine your next steps, potentially refer to others in the body of Christ, remain part of a team approach
- Potentially decide to be the primary caregiver but become further equipped and be supervised
This is a very helpful book for those that seek to pastorally care for or counsel believers. It’s a quick and easy read, yet very insightful. In essence, it is not about the content of counselling, but rather on “the process, the journey, the relationship between the counselor and the counselee, and the mindset embedded behind the art of counseling.” I found much of value within.
(Please forgive the switching between counsellor/counselor - I spell the Australian way, unless I am quoting directly)
An ecopy of this book was provided in exchange for an honest review.
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