When we get together with couples about to
become parents, we talk about many things.
These include prioritising their relationship with God, prioritising
their marriage, trusting themselves as new parents, managing their
relationships with their own parents, and thinking about their new roles as
‘Mum’ and ‘Dad’.
One specific thing we talk about is the
risk of always looking forward to the next stage, rather than finding the
positives in the stage you are in. Those
“I wish they could talk”, “I wish they were at school”, “I wish we could skip
the tantrums” thoughts. All very understandable
and thoughts many of us will have had at some time or another.
One of the suggestions to bring this home
is to watch the movie Click. If you find yourself often wishing this
too would pass, have a look at it. It’s
a pretty good example of what would happen if you really could skip ahead. Michael Newman (Adam Sandler) is struggling
to balance all that life holds with a young family, and a busy job. One night, a kind stranger offers him a
‘universal remote’ to help him control his life. To his amazement, and excitement, the remote
actually controls time. He can skip
arguments, mute his wife’s complaining and fast forward to when a project is
completed without actually doing the work.
In time, however, it becomes clear that the remote ‘learns’, so the
things he skips become skipped regularly – times of intimacy, resolution of
problems, years of work. In time, the
things that Michael misses become more and more extreme and in the end, decades
pass with him essentially functioning on autopilot. It is clear that he has become trapped by his
own choices.
At one level, it’s a pretty depressing film,
and it has all the usual crassness of most Sandler offerings so you certainly
won’t agree with or even like parts of it, but it certainly makes you question
your life’s priorities. It’s worth
watching and then thinking about where your life tends to function on auto
pilot and anything you might like to think about changing.
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