Monday, October 27, 2008

Parenting Books

I am always looking for good books on parenting, especially parenting from a Christian perspective.

Here are some that I have found helpful.

And Then I Had Kids, Susan Alexander Yates (sub titled: Encouragement for Mothers of Young Children). A realistic book about the ups and downs of mothering.

Disciplines of a Godly Family, Kent and Barbara Hughes. I think this was previously published as Common Sense Parenting. They give a godly perspective on many parenting issues, and give many practical ideas of how to share your faith within your family, the establishment of family traditions and lots of useful appendices. I have adapted their advent calendar for use in our family, which our children have loved doing each December 1-25. This book, combined with Jodie Bernt's Praying the Scriptures for your Children, transformed my prayer life, helping it to become more disciplined and structured. They have also written Disciplines of a Godly Man and Disciplines of a Godly Woman, which both my husband and I have really appreciated.

How to Really Love your Child
, D Ross Campbell, M.D. A great commonsense book on ensuring that your children actually receive the love you give them. Easy to read and full of ideas.

Praying the Scriptures for Your Children, Jodie Bernt. This is a fantastic book which transformed my prayer life (along with Disciplines of a Godly Family, Kent and Barbara Hughes). She addresses numerous aspects of a child's life regarding their faith, character, safety, relationships and future; and at the end of each chapter provides Bible verses that you can pray specifically for your own children. I ended up typing many of them up and they have become the basis for the prayers I use for each of my children, and for everyone I pray for. Here is a more detailed review.

Loving Life as an at-home Mom, Donna Otto. There were lots of helpful things in this book, including challenging women to actually be 'at-home' mothers in their children's younger years. There were other parts of it that were less helpful, or personally relevant. For a more detailed review see here.

How to Really Parent Your Child, Ross Campbell. A great book which encourages you to think through how to proactively parent according to your child's needs rather than reactively parent according to your child's actions. Lots to think about especially with regard how we show love to our children and how to help them manage anger. A more detailed review is here.

** Please note this post has been updated to another page linking to all parenting books reviews - go here to see it.


Camilla Cathro said...

Hi Wendy,
I'm enjoying reading your thoughtful comments and reviews.

I have found
Barbara Coloroso's parenting book "Kids are Worth It: Giving kids the Gift of Inner Discipline" to be an ongoing invaluable resource in parenting our 3 (who are now 15,13 and 10). Coloroso was once a Franciscan nun and a teacher who later got married and had children. Her approach is warm and practical and I especially like her emphasis and practical tips on teaching children to do "the right thing" because it is the right thing to do, rather than because it has any extrinsic reward. Your comments about rewards and punishments as inducements for good behaviour, put me in mind of this!She also talks about what good discipline really is and has helpful ways of describing different parenting styles and her approach supports preserving the dignity of the child (and the parent!).
Perhaps you might like to add this to your review list?!!

Wendy said...

Sounds good Camilla - I'll add it to my list and see where I can find a copy! Thanks, Wendy